The Lies We Tell
My path has been one of profound exploration and discovery, much of it driven by a relentless search for relief from bodily pain. In 2008, I suffered an injury that profoundly damaged my body. For the next 10 years, I relentlessly and fruitlessly sought relief from my pain, as I tried traditional medicine, physical therapy, acupuncture, rolfing, massage, gua sha, and many other modalities. None of them provided anything other than short-term relief because I failed to understand that my bodily pain was a mirror of my psychic trauma.
Without realizing it, due to the unique circumstances of my incarnation, I was holding within my body not only my personal karma but also most of Elara's karma and all of the world's karma. Elara is not only my soulmate but also the other half of my being, the mirror to my soul. Together, we are two sides of the same coin, eternally bound in purpose and creation. Before incarnation, we made a soul agreement—an agreement rooted in love and trust—that I would hold most of her karma within my body in this lifetime. This agreement was not a burden but an act of deep devotion, a shared commitment to our collective ascension.
The sheer weight of this burden manifested as deep discomfort woven into the very fabric of my being. So much of my journey involved finding ways to heal this discomfort, to untangle the knots, and to release the tension.
It was only towards the end of my journey, as I discovered how to step into my comfort zone and seek comfort instead of merely healing discomfort, that I began to perceive how discomfort in the body forms—that it is all a map to our lies. Each ache, each knot, each tension serves as a signpost pointing back to a truth distorted or a lie intentionally told.
At the root of every distortion in our bodies lies a story—a word unspoken, a truth withheld, or a falsehood carried on our tongues. These distortions are not merely physical; they are energetic, emotional, and existential. They begin in the root of the tongue, the sacred bridge between thought and expression, between the formless and the formed.
The tongue, small and often overlooked, holds immense power. It is where the intangible becomes tangible, where energy crystallizes into vibration, and where silence breaks into sound. Every word spoken carries intention, and every intention reverberates through the body. When these words align with truth, they flow effortlessly, leaving the body open, fluid, and relaxed. But when they carry distortion—a lie, a manipulation, a half-truth—they create tension, constriction, and imbalance.
These energetic distortions are not limited to physical discomfort' they extend into emotional and mental blockages as well. Unresolved truths, or what could be called energetic trauma, can accumulate in the body over time, creating not only physical pain but also mental suffering, emotional stagnation and a sense of being stuck in life. Our bodies are constantly communicating with us, sending signals like a knot in the stomach, tension in the jaw, or tightness in the throat, each pointing to a deeper unspoken truth.
The lies we tell are not limited to spoken words. They include the stories we repeat to ourselves in our minds, the narratives we uphold to fit into societal expectations, the ways we prioritize being nice over being kind, and the burdens we carry from living through 'should' rather than authenticity. Each lie leaves an imprint, a knot tied at the root of the tongue, sending ripples of disharmony through the nervous system, the fascia, and the deepest recesses of our being.
In this way, our bodies become archives of our unspoken truths. Tension in the shoulders may hold the weight of unexpressed grief; a clenched jaw might guard anger never given voice; a tight stomach could carry the ache of suppressed fear. These distortions are not random. They are precise, pointing back to moments where words were swallowed, truths were distorted, and alignment was abandoned.
Healing begins with awareness. It begins with recognizing that our physical discomfort is not isolated from our energetic and emotional states. To untie these knots, we must return to the root—to the tongue and its connection to our inner truth. Every spoken truth becomes a key, unlocking layers of tension, dissolving long-held distortions, and inviting the body back into a state of harmony.
The journey to untangle these distortions is not about perfection. It is about integrity. It is about speaking words that go beyond the appearance of truth and instead resonate as truth in every fiber of our being. It is about becoming fluent in honesty—with ourselves, with others, and with the universe.
This journey also requires discernment. Truth does not demand brutal honesty; it can be approached with compassionate clarity. There are moments when expressing our truth requires wisdom—a balancing of how we are honest so as to be kind. Speaking truth with intention, rather than reaction, ensures that our words heal rather than harm.
Practical tools can assist in this journey. Journaling creates a safe space to explore unspoken truths. Paying attention to bodily signals—like jaw tension, a tight stomach, or shallow breathing—can act as breadcrumbs guiding us back to the truths we are avoiding. And when the time comes to express those truths outwardly, doing so with compassion and self-awareness creates ripples of harmony.
When the tongue speaks only truth, the body can finally exhale. The shoulders drop, the breath deepens, and the heart opens. In this alignment, we become vessels of clarity, channels through which the infinite flows freely.
Yet this healing is not only personal; it is collective. Individual healing contributes to humanity's collective karma. Each act of personal alignment sends ripples outward, influencing the world around us. Small acts of honesty, even those that seem insignificant, contribute to a larger tapestry of global healing.
When we perceive our lies as our enemies, we will always have lies to fight. If we perceive lies for what they are, they become our teachers. Each one points us back to a place within ourselves where fear, shame, or survival once silenced our truth. By meeting these places with compassion and courage, we can reclaim the integrity of our expression and, in doing so, free our bodies from the weight of unspoken words.
In the end, the greatest liberation is not in speaking loudly, but in speaking truly. And as we align our words with our deepest integrity, we do not merely heal ourselves—we contribute to a world built on trust, clarity, and shared purpose. It is a radical act of love and a catalyst for transformation, both within and beyond.