Clearing the Karmic Cloud
There is a moment when the fog dissipates, and the subtleties are revealed. I found myself in such a moment of clarity recently, when a truth I had only understood in theory finally landed—not only in thought, but in feeling.
Clarity
The realization felt simple, yet profound: We can be in relationships—with people, things and even concepts—without attachment or karma. Attachment is not the relationship itself. It is a different energy. A different frequency. And when we begin to bifurcate the two, everything changes.
That realization shifted something deep within me.
Bifurcating the Bond
We often equate attachment with love or care. But in truth, attachment carries something more:
a thread of fear
a quiet craving
a hidden shame
a subtle dependency or resistance
That energy distorts the clarity of the relationship.
It entangles us in karmic loops, and clouds the clarity of connection with others.
By letting go of the attachment, the relationship does not disappear.
It breathes.
It becomes sovereign.
It becomes whole.
Equally Worthy
This realization opened my eyes to something beautiful:
Without attachment, all relationships become equally worthy.
No more energetic hierarchies. No more emotional debts.
Only presence. Connection. Flow.
There is no longer the heavy pull of karma.
There is no story to be replayed. There is only now.
How Then Do We Choose?
This naturally led to the next question: Without attachment or justification, how do we choose? How do we move toward one connection over another?
Not impulsively. Not to escape.
From a place of integrity, clarity, and healing.
Because when the karmic charge is cleared, and we are standing in our own resonance, what feels good becomes a compass of truth. We move from a place of trust and alignment.
This is something Samah has shared with me before—
a teaching I intellectualized in my mind before it landed in my heart.
But this time, it finally clicked.
It stopped being an idea, and became a knowing by direct experience.
Living This Truth
One of the most personal expressions of this realization has been in my relationship with my daughter. For a long time, a big part of my identity was tied to being a “good mother.” It was an attachment—a craving to be enough, to do enough, or to not do too much.
But when I began to see that this was not the relationship itself—but a separate energetic overlay of worry, guilt, and craving—I could begin to let it go. And what emerged was trust.
Now, instead of constantly questioning and figuring out whether I am doing the right thing, I can trust myself to do what feels good. That trust, born from inner healing of the karmas, releases so much psychic pressure. I believe this shift not only helps me feel better, but also frees my daughter from the subtle karmic pull I had unknowingly placed on her.
I also realized how this perception can be applied to all relationships—whether as a spouse, friend, partner, or sibling—as well as our connections to concepts and things such as money, love, and fear.
This clarity of perception was the first key step. It was a not an immediate complete transformation as I am still integrating this realization. However, being conscientious of this truth and applying it in practice helps me move closer to living it fully so it becomes a natural and organic state of my being.
Keeping It Simple
On the surface, this may sound too simple. But truth often is. It is only our stories and wounds that make it feel complicated.
We do not need attachment to justify love.
We do not need fear to provide protection.
We can choose relationships freely, and in doing so, make them sacred and pure again.
A Gentle Offering
If you are on a healing path—one of releasing, remembering, returning—
perhaps this reflection meets you where you are.
You do not need to untangle everything all at once.
Simply notice.
Notice the relationship.
Notice the attachment.
Feel the difference, and let go of the attachment.
And then ask yourself:
What would feel good now…
if I trusted myself completely?